Writing an obituary is one of the most meaningful things you can do to honor a loved one’s life. It can feel daunting — finding words in the middle of grief — but an obituary doesn’t need to be long or elaborate to be beautiful. This guide walks you through what to include, offers a fill-in template, and helps you create something your family will treasure.
What to Include in an Obituary
- Full name (including nicknames if commonly used)
- Age, date and place of birth
- Date and place of death
- Family members — those surviving and those who predeceased
- Career and accomplishments
- Military service if applicable
- Passions, hobbies, and personality traits
- Faith and community involvement
- Memorial service information if a service is planned
- Memorial preferences — donations to a charity in lieu of flowers
A Simple Obituary Template
[Full Name], [age], of [City, State], passed away peacefully on [Date] at [Place of Death]. Born on [Birth Date] in [City of Birth], [he/she/they] lived a life defined by [one or two key qualities].
[He/She/They] is survived by [list immediate family]. [He/She/They] was preceded in death by [list any who predeceased].
[Add a paragraph about career, passions, faith, or memorable traits.]
A celebration of life will be held on [Date] at [Location]. In lieu of flowers, the family welcomes donations to [Charity Name].
Tips for Writing a Meaningful Obituary
Open with something specific
The most memorable obituaries open with a detail that captures who the person was. Instead of “John Smith was born in Chicago,” try “John Smith could fix anything with a piece of string and a lot of patience.”
Use the person’s own words when possible
If your loved one left letters or recorded conversations, weaving in a phrase or expression they often used brings their voice back to life.
Ask family members to contribute
A sibling might remember a childhood detail. A grandchild might share a funny story. Gathering memories from multiple people makes the obituary richer.
Where to Publish an Obituary in Illinois
- Chicago Tribune: chicagotribune.com/obituaries
- Daily Herald: dailyherald.com (covers northwest suburbs)
- Legacy.com: The largest obituary platform in the US
Frequently Asked Questions
How long should an obituary be?
There is no required length. Short obituaries (2–3 paragraphs) are common and entirely appropriate. Newspaper obituaries are often priced by the word, so budget may be a factor.
Who writes the obituary?
Usually a close family member. Trusted Cremations is happy to provide guidance.
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